The Cases of violence not only occurs in the household but also during courtship type of physical psychological, sexual, and economic. National Commission on Violence against Women in notes written in the 2008 Annual official portal, the highest type of domestic violence is economic violence that occurs against the wife.

The second highest is a sexual crime in the community. To avoid this, start from the time of courtship. Make sure that the date went well and safe. If not, you should immediately take a decision. Because the violence was happening, it will always be repeated. Tolerance is often given women only make the violence gets worse later. Learn how to date you are healthy and safe:

1. Firmly. Men and women have equal rights to provide boundaries within the relationship. Tell your partner clearly what you can tolerate, and which are not. But not necessarily dominate the other, say with respect for their rights, too.

2. Two-way communication. Communicate, and discuss the desires, dreams, even through your boundaries in relationships. Tell them clearly and firmly from the beginning of a date. Do not exchange pleasantries when it comes to relationships in pairs. After all, you are looking for the companion or not just having fun is not it?

3. Negotiate problems. The difference is not a reason to avoid the couple. As long as both are still open in discussing the problem, any difference or conflict it can be solved by discussion Maybe there eventually one of the parties who did not listen to her wishes. Find a way out that is fair to both parties to negotiate.

4. Eliminate assumptions. Do not assume too much by reading the couple’s wishes his body gesture. Make sure you know the desire to direct speech.

5. Trust instincts. You must be able to feel if things started not comfortable, including the time alone with a partner. Trust your inner heart feelings about the unsafe conditions. Do not just quiet; do something soon.

6. Always updated with information. Following the latest information useful for your personal relationships. At least you can learn from what happened to someone else, and if domestic violence is also happening to you, there are protections in themselves. Or if you are experiencing violence, by reading information from the media you can find out where you can get help.

7. Dare say “no” Say “no” firmly, and do not hesitate if you are persuaded cooed. For example, if your limit is not having sex, but partner sulk, say “no” firmly. Or you’ve repeatedly physically abused, and then sulk feel sorry mate. It is time to say “no” and save your-self.

8. Avoid alcohol and drugs. Flirtations with alcohol or drugs are another way to weaken you. Do not follow this invitation, because it will only plunge you. Manipulation or coercion to do anything, let alone a sexual relationship from your partner is a form of human rights violations by parties who were forced. This can lead to criminal acts such as rape. So, make sure your partner does not have the characters.

Finance is one of the things often appear as a trigger fights in domestic life. This problem is often also startling new partner. Problems that had rarely encountered before marriage, then suddenly became a big thing in a relationship. Many husbands and wives who avoid discussion about sensitive issues such as finance and talk about finances are very important in building the household. However, it is better if the conduct of communication with more carefully about this sensitive topic. Namely with the following steps:

1. You and your partner communicate to each other their respective views
about money and management objectives are to achieve.
2. Then, create a priority along with the financial goals are. Gain agreement on the main objectives and urged to take precedence, and the goals that can be postponed.
3. Arrange with a realistic plan for his accomplished both of you to achieve that goal. Make notes about what to do you and your partner.
4. Discuss with your partner about how best to manage the day-to-day finances. Make budget expenditure every month. If possible, the duty to pay routine bills and expenses incurred.
5. Make decisions together, whether you and your partner will unite the money in a separate account or the account of each. However, any decision taken, to openness and honesty.
6. Think about your future together. Invest together. Determine the type of investment that you both want to do: savings, deposits, stocks, and so on.
7. Often talk about and evaluate financial objectives and its implementation by both of you.
8. Inform your income to the spouse is not a prerequisite to build a good financial communications. However, if the husband and wife are running a good financial communication, naturally each will voluntarily notify the amount of income earned each month.

Almost all parents must understand the difficulty of choosing a school for children. With so many school options that are available now: excellent schools, national, international, domestic or religious based. Not to mention the cash register and a variety of school fees. Even harder when the choices you and your husband were different, how the solution and the solution? Remember that children want to go to school is your child alone, so good or your husband, have the right to enter into the child’s life. Also make decisions to send children.

For you and your partner in determining the child’s school is school discipline, the teaching system, the environment, cost, and so on. From this, determine which one takes priority raise their reasons and forms to deal with. Determine the number of school choices based on priorities, as a backup if your child does not like you two main options.

Involve your husband is also in other cases involving school children. Be assured him that it is one way to close to the child’s life. Occasionally, invited her husband to meet teachers, parents of students meeting or introduced by friends two of your children.

Make a turn in assignments to help children make their homework. That is way children will also feel close to you and your husband. Inform also the husband of the child’s achievement in school. If there are problems at school, made it clear that it’s not your responsibility alone, but you and your husband as parents. Faced with the problem without blaming each other, but open-minded.

Certainly not fun if you and your partner are in a “cold war”, mutual silence and the atmosphere became stiff. This usually happens when you hit discord and spouse, Moreover if both sides feel justified and proud to begin reconciliation. Arguments are normal in a relationship. Sometimes the arguments even make your relationship stronger, because it made the argument as a positive sign. Do not fight too long. If a disagreement occurs, try the following ways:

1. But avoid silence. Unless your partner is a psychic, it is difficult to understand the feelings and content of your mind if silent. Conversely, if the silent partner, try to persuade it to talk, for example by making his favorite cup of lemon tea.

2. Men and women tend to have different ways of the communicating
Women tend to be more sensitive and did not talk directly to the point, while men tend to talk straight to the point. Because of that try to explore the core issues you want to discuss with your partner. Limit the discussion to the issue only to be straightforward.
3. Lower your pride and ego when talking about a problem. Instead, listen and understand your partner’s view also to the problem.
4. Create a comfortable and relaxed atmosphere prior to discuss problems. Give a cup of hot lemon tea to break the ice. Then you and your partner are ready to talk with the head cold.